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Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People®
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Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People®
Index
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2 Habits defined
3 Defining a habit
4 Paradigms and Principals
5 The Private Victory
6 Habit 1-^ Be proactive
7 Habit 2-^ Begin with the end in mind
8 Habit 3-^ Put first things first
9 Time quadrants
10 The Public Victory
11 Habit 5-^ Seek first to understand then to be understood
12 Habit 6-^ Synergy
13 Habit 7^ -^ Sharpen the saw
14 Habit 8^ –^ Finding your voice
14 Quotes that support the habits
17 The ABC of using the habits
17 Reading Recommendations
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Defining a habit and explaining how the
habits can help us.
WHAT EXACTLY ARE HABITS?
Habits are things we do repeatedly. But most of the time we are hardly aware that we have them. They're on autopilot.
Some habits are good, such as:
Exercising regularly Planning ahead Showing respect for others
Some are bad, like:
Thinking negatively Feeling inferior Blaming others
And some don't really matter, including:
Taking showers at night Eating yogurt with a fork Reading magazines from back to front
The 7 Habits can help you:
Get control of your life Improve your relationships with your friends Make smarter decisions Get along with your parents Overcome addiction Define your values and what matters most to you Get more done in less time Increase your self-confidence Be happy Find balance between school work, friends, and everything else
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Paradigms and Principles
Paradigm is another word for perception.
Here are some examples of perceptions:
There is no reason for any individual to have a computer in their home. “Kenneth Olsen, President and found of Digital Equipment Corp. 1977”
Man will never reach the moon regardless of all scientific advances. Dr. Lee Forest, Inventor of the Audion Tube and Father of Radio (Feb 25th^ 1967)
Television won’t be able to hold on to any market it captures after the first six months. People will soon get tired of starting at a plywood box every night. Darryl F Zanuck. Head of 20th^ Century Fox in 1946
Statements made by real teens.
No one in my family has ever gone to Uni. I’d be crazy to think I could make it.
My teacher is out to get me.
Me? Thin? Are you kidding? My whole family is full of fat people.
Our paradigms can often be way off the mark and as a result they create limitations. Paradigms are like wearing a pair of glasses that at times could have the wrong prescription. The lens affects how you see everything. We have paradigms about ourselves, about other people and about life in general.
Ask yourself “What is the driving force of my life?” Is it friend centred, stuff (possession) centred, girl friend-boyfriend centred, school centred, sport or hobby centred. There is a fine line between having a passion for something and basing your entire existence on it. To obtain balance in life you need to live a principle-centred life. What are principles: Honesty, hard work (persistence) organisation, cooperation (Yes this is where You Can Do It fits into the picture) The National School Network Norms are principles that we ask our teaching staff to operate by. Adopt a sense of responsibility in and for the group Attend to others and listen Cooperate in good faith Confront problems and differences of opinion respectfully Accept where others are at Allow and give no put downs Suspend judgment
We need to understand our principles and paradigms so that when we explore the 7 Habits of Highly Effective people we know the driving force behind our own Thinking.
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Habit 1 – Be Proactive
Self-awareness enables us to stand apart and examine the way we see ourselves. It is our map of the basic nature of mankind.
The Social Mirror
There are three widely accepted theories of determinism:
Genetic determinism holds that you inherit your personal tendencies and character. Psychic determinism holds that your upbringing and childhood experiences mould you. Environmental determinism holds that environmental factors are responsible.
Between Stimulus and Response
Frankl, a psychologist in the Freudian tradition, recognized that "between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose."
Imagination -- the ability to create in our minds beyond our present reality. Conscience -- an inner awareness of right and wrong. Independent will -- the ability to act based on self-awareness.
Proactivity Defined
Proactivity: As human beings we are responsible for our own lives.
Reactive people are driven by feelings, circumstances, conditions, the environment. Proactive people are driven by carefully considered, selected and internalized values.
Taking the Initiative
Taking the initiative does not mean being pushy, obnoxious, or aggressive. It does mean recognizing our responsibility to make things happen.
Circle of Concern/Circle of Influence
Where do you focus your time and energy?
Proactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Influence. Reactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Concern.
People are just about as happy as they make up their mind to be. (Abraham Lincoln)
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Habit 2 – Begin with the End in Mind
What it Means
To begin with the end in mind is to begin with the image of the end of your life as the frame of reference by which everything else is measured. We may be busy, we may be efficient, but we will only be effective if we begin with the end in mind.
Habit 2 is based on the principle that all things are created twice: o a mental or first creation o a physical or second creation
Leadership and Management
Habit 2 is based on principles of personal leadership, which means that leadership is the first creation. Management is the second creation. Management is doing things right, leadership is doing the right things. Often people get into managing with efficiency, setting and achieving goals before they have even clarified values.
A Personal Mission Statement
The most effective way to begin with the end in mind is to develop a personal mission statement. The key to the ability to change is a changeless sense of who you are, what you are about, and what you value. Once you have a sense of mission, you have the essence of your own proactivity; the vision and values which direct your life, the basic direction from which you set your goals.
At the Centre
Whatever is at the centre of our life will be the source of our security, guidance, wisdom, and power.
Spouse centeredness Family centeredness Money centeredness Work centeredness Possession centeredness Pleasure centeredness Friend/enemy centeredness Church centeredness Self centeredness
A Principle Centre
Our lives need to be centred on correct principles -- deep, fundamental truths, classic truths, generic common denominators. As a principle centered person, you try to stand apart from the emotions of situations and from other factors to evaluate options.
Assignment :
Write a mission statement for your week/ month/year/life.
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What It Takes to Say "No"
The only place to get time for Quadrant II in the beginning is Quadrants III and IV. If you were to fault yourself in one of three areas, which would it be?
The inability to prioritize The inability or desire to organize around those priorities. The lack of discipline to execute around them.
The Quadrant II Tool
A Quadrant II organizer will meet six criteria: Coherence. Harmony, unity, and integrity between vision and mission, priorities and plans, and desires and discipline. Balance. Success in the various roles of our life. Quadrant II Focus. Organize your life on a weekly basis. Schedule your priorities don't prioritize what's on your schedule. A "People" Dimension. Focus on people not just the schedule. Flexibility. The planning tool should be tailored to you. Portability. You should be able to carry your tool with you.
Becoming a Quadrant II Manager
- Identify roles 2. Select goals
- Schedule 4. Adapt
The Time Quadrant for Teenagers
Urgent Not Urgent
Important
The Procrastinator
Exam tomorrow Friend gets injured Late for work Project due today
Car breaks down
The Proritiser
Planning, goal setting Essay due in a week Exercise Relationships
Relaxation
Not Important
The Yes-Man
Unimportant phone calls Interruptions Other people’s small problems
Peer pressure
The Slacker
Too much TV Endless phone calls Excessive Computer games Mall marathons
Time waster
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The Public Victory
The second set of three habits, 4. think win-win , 5. seek first to understand, then be understood , and 6. synergize , are the basis for public victory. Public victory is success with others in teams and in relationships in general. They are shared victories where you help and are helped by other people. Public victories are built on the private victories of the first three habits. To be publicly successful in a deep or real way, you should first build the first three habits into your character. To try to do things another way is building on a false foundation and will bring about only short-term results.
Habit 4: Think win-win
Many of us grow up with a competitive mindset, "I win, and you lose". Or, a beaten-down mindset, "I give up, do whatever you want to me". Or, a mix of these and other mindsets. Each of these has its place. However, for most of the most valuable interactions we have in family and business, the most mature and effective point of view is seeking situations that benefit everyone involved.
When we negotiate, we should seek to make deals that help everyone. In cases where this is not possible, it is best to have the mindset from the outset that you will walk away from the deal.
Habit 5: Seek first to understand, then be understood
To influence and help others, you must first actively listen to them and understand their situation and concerns. Think of the example of a doctor who gives a prescription over the telephone without getting all of the necessary information about the patient or his condition. This could lead to a serious or fatal error if the patient takes the wrong medicine. In the same way, you should be very careful when you start to give anyone advice that you understand the preoccupations and situation of that person. Even if your advice is very good, it will likely not apply to the situation.
Part of this is not just to listen passively but to listen actively and empathetically. Put yourself in the shoes of the other person. See the world from his perspective as best you can. Listen without judging. Three main errors to avoid: 1. "Hearing" everything through a filter formed by your own world-view, imposing your pre-conceived ideas on everything that you hear. 2. 3.
All our life we have been frustrated when someone just won't understand. Someone who just argues for his position. Understanding is the doorway to collaboration, friendship, and more. When seeking first to understand, honestly empathize with the person. Listen actively and then state their case back to them so they say "yes that's exactly how I see it". When that condition occurs, you may seek to be understood. The resulting exchange of ideas and feelings is bound to be synergistic, win-win.
Habit 6: Synergize
This habit deals with teamwork and opening yourself up emotionally to work with other people. It says that optimistic, emotionally-charged individuals who are living out the previous habits are able to work in amazing ways and come up with new alternatives together that no one of them would have come up with alone. The idea is that one plus one is three, or more, and the synergy happens when these "third alternatives" appear. It is a bit chaotic but fun and stimulating.
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Habit 6 – Synergize
Synergy
The exercise of all the other habits prepares us for the habit of synergy. Synergy. The whole is greater than the sum of its parts. Few people experience synergy in their lives because most people have been scripted into defensive or protective communications. Synergy can be unnerving unless one has a high tolerance for ambiguity and gets security from integrity to principles and inner values.
Synergy in the Classroom
Many truly great classes teeter on the very edge of chaos. Synergy is possible in the classroom when the group collectively agrees to subordinate old scripts and to write a new one.
Synergy in Business
To achieve synergy in business requires that people become open and authentic. When we open ourselves up to the influence of others, we gain new insights and facilitate the generation of new options.
Fishing for the Third Alternative
In many compromise situations there is usually a third alternative. Synergistic third alternatives are often better for both parties than their original alternatives. Seeking the third alternative is a major paradigm shift from the dichotomous either/or mentality.
Negative Synergy
Most highly dependent people are trying to succeed in an interdependent reality. Many people don't realize that the real strength of any relationship is having alternative points of view.
Valuing the Differences
Valuing the differences is the essence of synergy. The truly effective person has the humility and reverence to recognize his own perceptual limitations and to realize the rich resources available through interaction with the hearts and minds of other people. If two people have the same opinion, one person is unnecessary.
Conclusion
You don't have to take insults personally. You can sidestep negative energy. You can look for the good in others. You can express ideas, feelings, and experiences in a way that will encourage others to be open also.
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Habit 7 – Sharpen the Saw
Principles of Balanced Self-Renewal
Overview
Habit 7 is taking the time to sharpen the saw. This is definitely a Quadrant II activity.
Four Dimensions of Renewal
Physical Spiritual Mental Social
The Physical Dimension
Involves caring effectively for our physical body. Exercise is a Quadrant II, high-leverage activity that most of us don't do consistently because it isn't urgent.
The Spiritual Dimension
The spiritual dimension is your core, your center, your commitment to your value system. Spiritual renewal is a Quadrant II investment of time that we really can't afford to neglect.
The Mental Dimension
Surveys indicate that the television is on in most homes thirty- five to forty hours per week. Reading good literature on a regular basis is a good way to renew your mind. Keeping a journal of our thoughts, experiences, and insights is also beneficial.
Daily Private Victory
Sharpening the saw in the first three dimensions. Spend one hour a day in activities in these areas.
The Social Dimension
This area of our lives is primarily developed in our relationships with others. We can help script others as principle-centered, value-based, independent, worthwhile individuals.
Balance in Renewal
The self-renewal process must include balanced renewal in all four dimensions of our lives. This is true for organizations as well as for individuals.
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Habit 3: Put first things first (Will and Won’t Power)
Things that matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
The key is not to prioritize your schedule but to schedule your priorities.
Ones philosophy is not best expressed in words; it’s expressed in the choices one makes. In the long run, we shape our lives and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we mare are ultimately our responsibility. Eleanor Roosevelt
What is important to another person must be as important to you as the other person is to you. Stephen R. Covey
You don’t invent your mission, you detect it. Victor Frankl
In all fields o human endeavour, 80 percent of the results flow from 20 percent of the activities. Pareto
To realize the value of ONE YEAR , ask a student who failed a grade. To realize the value of ONE MONTH , ask a mother who gave birth to a premature baby. To realize the value of ONE WEEK , ask the editor of a weekly newspaper. To realize the value of ONE HOUR , ask the lovers who are waiting to meet. To realize the value of ONE MINUTE , ask a person who missed the train. To realize the value of ONE SECOND , ask a person who just avoided an accident. To realize the value of ONE MILLISECOND , ask the person who won a silver medal in the Olympics.
Treasure every moment that you have! And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time.
And remember, time waits for no one. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it's called the present.
Habit 4 Think Win- Win (Life is an all you can eat buffet)
Win-win is a belief in the Third Alternative. It’s not your way or my way: it’s a better way Stephen R. Covey
Your security comes from within instead of from without Stephen R. Covey
Comparison leads to win-lose scripting Stephen R. Covey
Habit 5 Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood (You have two ears and one mouth…!)
We need to listen to one another if we are to make it through this age of apocalypse and avoid the chaos of the crowd
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Everyone’s life is so singular, so unique. Who will listen to understand that uniqueness? Stephen R. Covey
The psychological equivalent of air is to feel understood Stephen R. Covey
The key to listening is with the eyes and the heart. Stephen R. Covey
"When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving me advice, you have not done what I asked.
When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn't feel that, you are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, you have failed me, strange as that may seem.
Listen! All that I asked was that you listen, not talk or do -- just hear me.
Habit 6 Synergy (The “High” Way)
Differences create the challenges in life that open the door to discovery. Sean Covey
The essence of synergy is to value difference- to respect them, to build on strengths, to compensate for weakness. Stephen R. Covey
The enemy of the best is the good Anonymous
People who are truly effective have the humility and reverence to recognize their own perceptual limitations and to appreciate the rich resources available through interaction with the hearts and minds of other human beings. Stephen R. Covey
Strength lies in difference, not in similarities. Stephen R. Covey
The key to objectivity is to accept subjectivity Stephen R. Covey
I don not see the world as it is, I see the world as I am. Stephen R. Covey
Habit 7 Sharpen the saw (It’s me time)
A long, healthy and happy life is the result of making contributions, of having meaningful projects that are personally exciting and contribute to and bless the lives of others. Hans Selye
It is more noble to give yourself to one individual than to labour diligently for the salvation of the masses. Dag Hammarskjold